His thoughts on natural hair: Darryl Pearson

Hi Beauties!

Introducing Asiliglam’s latest installment of ‘His thoughts on natural hair.’ Check out what Darryl had to say….

NB: In your opinion, what role does hair play in assessing your initial attraction to a woman?

            Without a doubt, hair is the first aspect of a woman I tend to look at. Regardless of how curvaceous a woman may be, if she can’t properly upkeep her hair, I can’t get with it. So, I would say that a woman’s hair plays an extreme role in my initial attraction; easily making or breaking the deal.

NB: Why do you think so many women are going natural? Do you think the trend will fade?

            I believe more women are going natural because it has become trendy and they are feeding off one other. Women are living for themselves and believe that men need to accept them as they are and appreciate their personal style. There is nothing wrong with that. If you want to go natural, more power to you. What I do not like is when women go natural for a month or two, then give up and put the “creamy crack” back in their hair. Do it for yourself, and no one else.

            Will the trend fade? Of course. As soon as the next style becomes popular and “fashion-forward,” I’m sure women will move on and make the necessary adjustments. I prefer originality. Be yourself, and do what you want with your hair, not because it is what everyone else is doing.

NB: It has been researched that most black men prefer their women with natural hair; however, they prefer the woman’s hair to be straight. What is your opinion on this finding?

            I can’t speak for most black men, because I find myself to be quite different from most black men. What I can say is that I do not know much about natural hair, but when I think of natural hair the last thing I think of is straight hair. So, the finding, in my opinion, is contradictory, and I would have to disagree. However, I would agree that black men prefer a woman’s hair to be straight. There is just something about running your fingers through silky smooth hair…

NB: How do you feel about satin bonnets, scarf’s and other nighttime protective tools that natural women use to maintain their hair at night? Are these items problematic to you?

         Scarves, bonnets, or whatever other “protective tools” are of no bother to me. There is a time and place for each of them. As long as it is at night, in the privacy of your own house I am fine with it haha. Outside of home, I do not understand why one would ever want to wear them. The point of keeping your hair protected at night is to show off your hard work (and money spent) when you go out, right?

NB: Are you opposed to dating a woman who gets a relaxer or who wears a weave?

            I am a firm supporter of a woman who gets a relaxer or a woman who wears a weave. Don’t get me wrong, I love natural hair (certain styles) just as much. Still, as I said earlier there is just something about being able to run your fingers through a woman’s hair and not have to worry about getting caught in a knot.

NB: Describe your personal style.

            My style is a little bit of everything. Most would look at me and label me a “hipster” or “hypebeast” (though I DESPISE both terms), but realistically I have been in the game longer than them. Every now and then, I will change it up with some casual driving moccasins or loafers instead of my sneakers. It really just depends on how I feel in the morning.

NB: What are some of your favorite hair care products?

            I don’t purchase hair care products that much, but I personally love (and use) the kinky curly system. I do not know how others compare because I have never used anything else, but it gives me the amount of curl that I want for my hair. I also use a wave brush to give my hair a more rugged (and almost dreaded) look.

NB: Why do you think some women with natural hair have a perception that most black men don’t accept or appreciate their natural hair (specifically if she chooses to wear a tiny afro, large afro or any other afro centric style)?

            Honestly, it relates back to their upbringing. I cannot name a single black family that has raised a daughter without putting chemicals in her hair. Young black women are raised believing that straight hair is “better” hair, so they innately view natural hair as unattractive (especially an Afrocentric style). The tying factor would be that men do not desire unattractive women.

NB: If you were to have a daughter how would you want her to wear her hair?

            I would want my daughter to wear her hear in a fashion I like, which, unfortunately, isn’t an Afrocentric style. Therefore, I would prefer my daughter to wear her hair straight, or sport the longer curl look (similar to yours).

NB: Do you think it’s unattractive for a woman to spend too much time, money & energy maintaining her hair? (Whether it is natural or relaxed)

            Not at all. There is nothing more attractive than a woman who is concerned with her appearance. This is a great trait to have. It gives the man a type of assurance that she will continue to concern herself with her appearance as she ages.  Similarly, he would rarely have to be concerned that when taking her out to meet with friends or to a function, her hair doesn’t look presentable.

NB: Do you agree that some women of color notice the men who disapprove of their natural hair more than the brotha’s who actually embrace and appreciate her in a more natural state? If yes, what do you think are the first steps to fixing this problem?

            I do agree. It is human nature to sooner see the negatives than we do the positives. It is unfortunate, but that’s life. Fixing the problem isn’t an easy one. That would require overcoming human nature. I’m pretty sure if you could do that, you could bring about quite the change in this world.

NB: Is there anything else you wish women knew about how men truly feel about natural hair?

            Women… Do what you want with your hair for yourself and no one else. I am actually quite annoyed with the natural hair trend, because the majority of you are not doing it for yourselves (and therefore don’t know what you’re doing anyway). It turns out looking a hot mess, and you ultimately go back to the weave/relaxer.

            Natural hair can be of the utmost beauty, if pulled off correctly. In my experience, there are not many people who are capable of doing that unless they are really about the natural hair movement. So make sure it is for you before you make the chop.

NB: Anything else you would like to add?

            You’re all beautiful. Remember that.

Dope interview! Thanks Darryl!

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  1. Anonymous
    March 3, 2012 / 8:33 pm

    I think Black women need to stop being obsessed with what Black men think of their hair.

    • Anonymous
      March 7, 2012 / 3:05 pm

      Agree 1oo%!

  2. March 4, 2012 / 4:18 am

    He's trying hard not to sound ignorant but he fails miserably. He pretends to not dislike natural hair but his other comments indicate a clear disdain for it.

    I think Black women should choose whichever style they choose, relaxer, natural, weave, whatever. An attractive woman will be attractive regardless and an unattractive woman will be unattractive regardless. I say this both in terms of physical appearance as well as personality.

    But people who comment on natural hair sound incredibly stupid when they refer to or treat it as if it's something you "try" to do. Natural hair isn't something that, as this man so ignorantly states, you have to "pull off." Natural hair is just that, natural. It's something that you and your body do NATURALLY. There's no "trying" involved. It's funny because these men don't tell white women that they have to try to "pull off" their hair in their natural state but when it's a Black woman suddenly the idea of wearing your hair naturally is an idea that people cringe at.

    This young man says that women aren't "going" natural for themselves. Really? And exactly what is his basis for this statement. I find this is highly amusing for two reasons, one, I highly doubt he's conducted a poll or has actually had many conversations with women about why they choose to wear their hair naturally. Two, he doesn't seem to question the reasons as to why women wear relaxers or weaves. He seems to be under the impression that all women who are wearing weaves or relaxers are doing it for themselves yet anyone who dares not to is doing it because they have some ulterior motive.

    How sad that Black people in America think so poorly of themselves and their people's features. Perhaps instead of making judgments as to why women are choosing their hairstyles he should ask himself why he views afro-centric hairstyles as less attractive. Does he genuinely believe that society's image of beauty has nothing to do with his preference for non-afro-centric styles. Ignorance at it's finest.

  3. March 4, 2012 / 7:58 pm

    I think it is always helpful to get a perspective other than "our own". Whatever that may be. Thanks Darryl for participating.

  4. March 5, 2012 / 8:28 am

    i think his views were substantiated – based upon his outlook/upbringing.
    And he wasn't lying about natural hair being a trend. Now it may be a good/healthier trend but it is still a trend. He wasn't lying about that. As a natural (went from a life of press n curls to big chopping in April 2011) I love it and am excited to see it evolve. I have learned a lot about myself in the process and I love me more since the change. However, I have homegirls doing it halfhearted and halfway, (i.e., "Girl I let my perm grow out and my new growth is so kinky its cute! Imma youtube me a video and do something with it right quick" then as soon as the new growth and relaxed ends dont cooperate its, "girl, i made me a hair appt. this new growth is too much to deal with")

    So he is onto something there. But dont come too hard at Darryl. He was asked for his opinion. And it seems like the way he was raised coupled with his preference (after living HIS life) is he wants to glide his hands through his woman's hair and wants his daughter to mimic his same ideals.

    Don't be mad at the man. Just dont date him, lol.

    Similar to the fact that many natural women don't like a man with dreads (not locks, dreads). But he is natural too right?

    So it comes down to preference.

    And Darryl cleared everything up in his last few words, when he so eloquently said, "Women… Do what you want with your hair for yourself and no one else."

    and lastly,

    "You're all beautiful. Remember that."

    I can respect that. Because I "went natural" for me. And I love me… natural 😉

    Thanks for the input Darryl

  5. March 5, 2012 / 11:06 pm

    Well said @erikanicoleknew! I agree 😉

  6. March 6, 2012 / 10:25 pm

    LOL at don't be mad, don't date him.

    Sounds like a lot of black men who are looking up to the Western ideal of straight this, straight that.

    Pretty ignorant to me, but I liked the idea of having a series of interviews on what black blokes think about black women's hair. It encourages dialogue at least.

  7. Anonymous
    May 9, 2012 / 4:46 pm

    what a good looking idiot

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