How to soften coarse natural hair

Hi Beauties!

Are you still transitioning and can’t figure out for the life of you why your hair is still so coarse?? Are you struggling to retain moisture? All these questions have haunted naturals for some time now…it’s okay, relax…it’s not just your hair. We all strive to have soft, touchable hair..that’s why we put in so much time in our natural hair regimens. Well, if you aren’t achieving your ideal softness:

Here are some simple ways to help you achieve softer, more manageable natural hair.

1. ACV Rinse:

If you are transitioning or fully natural you have probably heard of an ACV rinse. This rinse will help balance your hair’s pH, soften hair and even create shine while eliminating frizz.

Check out my tutorial on how to apply your ACV rinse HERE


Mix 1 cup of water with 1 tablespoon of apple cider vinegar. Rinse your hair with the mixture after you have cleansed and conditioned.

2. Caramel Treatment:

The ingredients for this great treatment can mostly be found right in your kitchen cabinet! The caramel treatment gives the hair moisture, shine, manageability and softness. This treatment has also been known to even reduce shrinkage and loosen tight curl patterns among some women.

1/4 cup of honey
3 jars of banana baby food
1/4 cup of Blackstrap molasses
1/4 cup of olive oil (or any other oil of your choice)
1 teaspoon apple cider vinegar
An applicator brush

“Mix all of the ingredients in a bowl or use a mixer to speed it up. Using an applicator brush, apply the mixture to damp hair in sections just like you would a relaxer. Ensure that you do not manipulate your hair as the mixture is thick and trying to comb out your hair with it in can cause damage. Cover your hair with a shower cap and leave the treatment in for 30 minutes or overnight for the full effect. Afterwards, rinse your hair thoroughly with warm water and use a sulfate free shampoo and moisturizing conditioner to ensure that you have all of it out of your hair. Make sure you refrigerate any left-overs to save for next time.”

3. Coconut Milk Treatment:

Another great treatment that can be whipped up with the ingredients right in your kitchen.


A can of coconut milk
2 tbsp of honey
2 tbsp of coconut oil or any other oil of your choice
4 tbsp plain organic yoghurt
The juice of one lime
Cornstarch to thicken

“Mix all of the ingredients except for the cornstarch in a bowl thoroughly. Then slowly add cornstarch a half teaspoon at a time until the mixture thickens to your liking to avoid application from being a runny mess. Then apply to freshly washed hair in sections. Leave it in for 30 minutes then use a sulfate free shampoo and conditioner to rinse it out and style your hair like you usually do.”

You are well on your way to softer, more manageable natural hair!

Have you tried any of the above treatments? Which one helps the most?

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  1. September 19, 2012 / 3:49 pm

    Omg, I really needed this. Thanks! I haven't tried any of the treatments before. I think I'll try the ACV treatment first.

  2. September 19, 2012 / 9:03 pm

    What helps my hair is a hot oil treatment with unfiltered extra virgin olive oil mixed in with carotene oil, for some reason my hair responds well to these two oils.

  3. Anonymous
    October 2, 2012 / 1:25 am

    I find that mixing 1 part activator gel, two parts water, and a few drops of oil help to soften my hair.

    • Anonymous
      May 10, 2014 / 1:03 am

      The activator gel is a MUST for my kinky-coily crown. I think it just laughs at anything else attempting to moisturize!

    • Anonymous
      July 3, 2014 / 4:11 pm

      What type of activator gel do you use?

  4. Anonymous
    April 4, 2013 / 5:07 am

    I will be giving this a try this weekend.

  5. Anonymous
    May 23, 2013 / 11:30 am

    You can also use the shea moisture coconut curl lotion. Keeps your hair soft and moisture

    • Anonymous
      February 22, 2014 / 3:15 am

      I totally agree…

  6. Anonymous
    June 19, 2013 / 11:44 am

    Gonna try one of these. ….thanks

  7. July 13, 2013 / 3:14 pm

    I will try the first treatment today! Thank you.

  8. July 28, 2013 / 12:26 pm

    Think I'll start with the ACV treatment first. My hair is a hot mess these days. I'm willing to try anything.

  9. August 27, 2013 / 3:08 pm

    The acv rinse definitely helped me when I tried everything and my hair remained dry….

  10. October 21, 2013 / 8:50 pm

    tried the ACV treatment, but found hair was still dry. Going to try the Coconut milk treatment next.

  11. Anonymous
    December 3, 2013 / 11:23 pm

    I use oil moisturizer as my cream which has castor oil and aloe and I useccastor oil ( seperate bottle ) it works wonders for me seals in oil with moisture and it leaves my hair soft and moisturized all day .

  12. Anonymous
    January 20, 2014 / 12:34 pm

    I will give it a trial very soon

  13. January 29, 2015 / 11:13 pm

    A whole can of coconut milk? How many millilitres/ounces/cups is that?

  14. Anonymous
    December 29, 2015 / 10:50 pm

    I can vouch for the ACV treatment, I did it about once a month during my transition phase (I've been natural since December 2014 and have mostly 4C hair). I now that I am completely natural, I use Shea moisture's Jamaican black castor oil shampoo (tan label) that contains ACV and it does a good job of softening my hair. Doing a hot oil treatment with Jamaican black castor/olive oil mixture for 30 minutes before I shampooed my hair made it more manageable during my transitioning phase as well.

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